Jennifer Lopez stepped out in a tan and cream flannel top and white leggings while out looking at houses with her husband Ben Affleck. The pair were caught out with their agent in Pacific Palisades, looking at a large house. Affleck dressed casually but stylishly, wearing a blue sweater with trousers and bright Nike sneakers. It was a cool-toned design that went well with Lopez’s earth tones.
Lopez and Affleck have been hunting for a home for several months. Lopez spoke to Vogue for the December issue about the process of integrating her and Affleck’s residences. Both have children from prior marriages. Lopez and ex-husband Marc Anthony have 15-year-old twins Emme and Max, while Affleck has 17-year-old Violet, 14-year-old Seraphina, and 11-year-old Samuel with Jennifer Garner.
“The changeover is a process that must be conducted with extreme caution,” Lopez added. “They have so many emotions. They’re teenagers. But thus far, everything is going swimmingly. What I hope to nurture in our family is that his kids have a new ally in me, and my kids have a new ally in him, someone who loves and cares for them but can see things that I can’t see with my kids because I’m so emotionally invested.”
She also spoke about parenting them, as the children are growing up with far more privilege than others, thanks to their celebrity parents. “It’s challenging, in its own way, when you don’t have to battle for things because you don’t learn how to be a fighter,” she said of her twins’ upbringing in the Bronx, in a non-famous family, versus hers in the Bronx, in a renowned family. “I needed to learn how to fight. I wanted to give them a life that I didn’t have, but they don’t get to have the experience of something that is also useful, which is developing that survivalist attitude.”
Lopez went on to claim that she has purposefully avoided raising her voice in front of her children and attempts to keep her temper, something her mother did not do with her. “I truly wanted to find a better way than instilling dread in them,” she explained. “It’s as if I can set a barrier with you while also being your ally. That’s the balance: they appreciate you because you act in a way that they can emulate. It’s what I want to do because that wasn’t the case when I was younger.”
